My boss asked me last week what I'm going to do with myself in the next 5 years.
This is a textbook career question that bosses always ask to figure out based on your body language if you're sticking around, trying to get promoted, or are a no-ambition entry level lifer. You hear this constantly in job interviews.
Except it turned out not to be a job question at all, he asked me about marriage and kids.
One could reasonably speculate that a manager with an employee shortage might be fishing to find out which one of the only 4 female employees he's going to lose to maternity leave. One of the other ladies got pregnant and starts her time off in two weeks.
Maybe I'm stereotyping for saying "female" but I have 15 coworkers with children and the only one who took more days off than the delivery date of the baby, was a woman. Men don't do paternity leave around here for some reason.
Boy was I wrong.
As soon as I told him children would get in the way of my lifestyle he was BINGOing like no tomorrow.
"It wouldn't hurt your career, your husband could be the stay at home parent"
"But you'll be so bored and lonely at home"
And the most condescending offensive mother-of-all-bingos...
"You'll Change Your Mind" because he knows my mind better than I do.
What happened to business sense? He just lost a hundred grand over Shirley having a baby and he's immediately trying to convince me to have one.
In these parts you generally can't tell your boss to fuck off so I responded to everything he said with a "Yeah Maybe" but the interaction is still bothering me and I wish I could have straightened him out so he didn't go around putting the baby-preaching on everyone.
I'll change my mind, or you'll change it for me? What a conversation to have with your employees. Yikes.
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